This is a tough subject today: I am not sure why it happens but I have met a whole lot of ladies and we have shared these stories, confused why it happens. I know woman get afraid, that is just human. But they bail our kids up when we are not around and tell them really stupid things. By no means do I think it is done nastily, but children take it on board and it makes them afraid. I guess it's just about people protecting them selves.
I also noticed with my x-husband Ian people told him I would die. I was so sick, the cancer ride is already scary. Seems it gets a whole lot worse as we have to combat and protect our loved ones against extra fear. You would wonder, as humans we can't protect those kids not hurt them. It's a simple recipe for disaster really. I was asked to blog this, I think we just need a little thought on what we say to cancer fighters family.
Examples of why kids get upset, this gets said to them :
- What will you do when your mother dies?
- Are you scared mum won't be here anymore
- Cancer, oh dear do you know what that means
- Are you and your brothers going to be ok when mum is gone
There is a very good book called Stuck for words, sometimes its maybe less said the better. Even though people mean well. Damage can be prevented.
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